Right & Wrong

Since the childhood, I have been asked, said and learned always that what is right and what is wrong. Believe me, I am still in the same undecided state of mind as I was always when people say about this to me.

Do we really think that we could decide what is right and what wrong... This is very vague, isn't it..

I observe things, "RIGHT" or "WRONG" depends, varies from person to person!! Yes this is the only right thing I have learned so far.

In very recent days I have been seen my dearest persons were getting each other's head down for the same reason! Who is right and what is right...who is wrong and what is the wrong..Silly!!

Can you really judge who is right and what is wrong!!

We are in this beautiful world for very few days and we are spending these few days deciding "RIGHT" and "WRONG"!!

Isn't it stupidity? isn't it lack of knowledge?

Anyways, I have been far away from being the great "JUDGE" and I want to be always that. For me only important thing is KARMA.. Right or wrong future will say, not we.

One Day Outing @Deccan Trails

This is for the first time I was on my way to a place with all the persons whom I used to see 5 days 8 hours in a week, my colleagues, one day company outing for the first time in life.

We all were very much excited of the trip. On that particular day, 20th August, we assembled at our office just after having lunch. The day wasn't too sunny, but not also too much dull that we might feel bad. We all started for the trip at 2 o'clock taking heavy rain as our companion.

For the first time I was in a drive in heavy rain, the roads were flooded making themselves  like river. I enjoyed this drive the most, as the nature became more colorful and bright. Wherever I was looking at, it seemed everything had become new. The all way antakshari was our only sport, though we didn't know what was waiting for us at the Adventure Village!

When we reached our destination, it started to become dark. But we all are in the mood of doing enjoyment. So we overlooked it and started the game together, some were with Frisbee, some with cricket, some with the soccer!! 

Every arrangement was there to utilize the calorie at the full extent along with enjoyment and refreshment. I played the soccer after long days, so I enjoyed it very much. We didn't stop the games until everyone got exhausted.

Then the time came for the cards, as we all became bluff-masters in the game. We all became too tired and dying to have some drinks.

At that crucial moment, the manager asked that the Pakoda and Welcome drink was ready for us. All of us just attacked on that leaving nothing in the bowls.

We arranged two large tents for gents and two small tents for the ladies (as only because of their less population). So we took our allotted shelters after refreshing up as we all wanted to do more enjoyment but our physical tiredness created obstacles against it.

The location of the tents were up on a small hill and the dining and the adventure sports were at the basement. so we decided to have our dinner early as our manager arranged a bonfire after it. The food were very simple, like home made, that repealed unwanted illness of us. Then all our attention went to fire, music and dance.

The next day in the early morning, we were being got up forcefully. The reason was trek inside the forest for 5 Kms. Though everyone needed to sleep more, but the intention failed in front of the human's basic instinct, yes its ADVENTURE.

After 3 hours trekking when we were seeking some rest, some one got our attraction to the adventure sports which we hadn't started till then! Saying no to rest, we attacked the challenges waited for us.

As a whole I can say, for the first time I faced, enjoyed real life adventures, really a memorable trip in my life till today.

One Bedroom Flat

WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER..

A  Bitter Reality

 As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in
 Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the
 land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in USA, it
 was as if a dream had come true.


 Here at last I was in the place where I wanted to be. I decided I
 would be staying in this country for about Five years in which
 time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

 My father was a government employee and after his retirement,
 the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.


 I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling
 homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and
 speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone
 cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and
 pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange
 rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

 Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have
 only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within
 these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight.
 Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for
 all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be
 talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through
 all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting
 shorter I was forced to select one candidate.


 In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get
 married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After
 the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some
 money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after
 them, we returned to USA.


 My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she
 started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India
 increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our
 savings started diminishing.



After two more years we started to
 have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us
 by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked
 me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.


 Every year I decide to go to India… But part work part
 monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting
 India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a
 message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I
 couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The
 next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there
 was no one to do the last rights the society members had done
 whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed
 away without seeing their grand children.


 After couple more years passed away, much to my children's
 dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down.
 I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my
 savings were short and the property prices had gone up during
 all these years. I had to return to the USA...


 My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to
 stay in India... My 2 children and I returned to USA after
 promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

 Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an
 American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that
 had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India... I
 had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a
 well-developed locality.


 Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is
 for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife
 has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

 Sometimes



I wondered was it worth all this?



My father, even after staying in India,



Had a house to his name and I too have
 the same nothing more.

 I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

 Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.
 This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these
 children are losing their values and culture because of it. I
 get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well
 at least they remember me.


 Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will
 be performing my last rights, God Bless them.



But the question
 still
 remains 'was all this worth it?'

 I am still searching for an answer.................!!!



START THINKING



IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???



LIFE IS BEYOND THIS …..DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ……..

START LIVING IT …….

LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE …….

Be A Monk internally and A King externally

I am going to start this blog keeping a feeling in mind, which I got from environment around that one should keep the mind calm in any situation, as this is the only way to live better.

Whatever might happen to me, but keeping cool mind and patience is important. My friend used to say one thing to me when I was job less,"Don't worry Abhi, misery will not last long, in life, happiness and misery are rotating in a cycle, you are unhappy now, everything is going wrong with you, but see, once good time must come in your life and it would come very soon". She insisted me to keep patience and have believe in myself. Fortunately I listened to her and she was right!

I realized throughout the journey from failure to success consists in mental calmness. My dad often says me to practice meditation, its true that this practice really makes my mind utmost calm and peaceful. I must need to say here peace is the ultimate thing which can heal any patch, can make any human being better. If peace is there then the man would be succeeded surely.

Now, I want to say about my attitude to the external world, it should be firm enough that reflects my confidence always. Every where in life, firm and positive attitude reflects personality of a person, this should be unique, attractive, positive and enough convincing for others. 

Here I must have to say, that firm personality doesn't resembles to 'Pride' and 'Self-satisfaction'. these two are different, these things make persons indecent and rude as per myself. A humble person might be a composition of calmness(mentally) and firmness(externally) which make him successful in life.

Friends all these are my present feeling and thinking after getting a little bit success in life. Can't say, how far its true and how long it would persist, because everything in the world as per Mr. Albert Einstein is RELATIVE!!!

A Remarkable Day in My Life

Yesterday, I spent a remarkable day in my life, I'm a person who used to love dreaming, and yesterday one of my dreams came to reality.
From the early childhood and even till now also I used to dream of several things, one of these were I might have that much money I would have when I could also throw party in the sophisticated restaurants.
Yesterday was such a day when I threw such a party in such a restaurant in Hyderabad to my cousin and his family.:-)
I could not able to tell the joy I feel after for the first time I threw such an expensive party, I wish my parents would also be there, at least could see the happiness and pride in their face.

Deserving Win In The Semis

Really, Team India deserves this most deserving win against the Pak. Now, it really becomes a myth that in the WC, India will must defeat ever opponent Pakistan.
Actually, the cricket match between India and Pakistan can't be ever a game, lots of things are involved in it always. We Indians and Pakistanis are very much sentimental and emotional by nature. With this game sentiments of every Indian and Pakistani is attached. Even the players are also getting so tensed as they used to admit this after the game got over. We people used to see it not as a game only but as a war against eachother's ever opponent country.
It seems that more like a mere game its the prestige of the whole nation. From the common people to the Silver screen stars, get down at the same place, at least once we people forget all quarrel with each other and surprisingly pray for the same desire to their own God keeping hands on each other's shoulder!
I love the game,I love the spirit of the nation,I love the unity of the people at least for this incredible game.:)  

Mind can never be satisfied!

I'm writing,because,surprisingly,i'm feeling this! Mind really not be satisfied ever! When i came here with the dreams in my eyes,atleast someone would pay for my work,atleast i would also have my own money,my own name! I got my first salary already,still i couldnt show that happiness which i should be. Now i have my own name,my own money,still my mind wants more,i think,its never ending desire and expectation!really surprising! But i wanna be happy truely what i'm,what i achieved,but i cant! May be this is my psychological problem or human mind is like that. Who knows?